First Date Tips

first Date Dos & Don'ts

On your first date with a hot chick or hot stud - here are some dos and don'ts you might want to take heed to before you go out.

First I'll start with the guys:

First off look good. If you are naturally an ugly guy (like me), then groom yourself to look handsome. One thing I always say is that, "I may be no Denzel (or Brad Pitt), but I'm somewhere on the family tree." Trim your beard, get a nice hair cut - you can't afford that (you really don't need to be going on a date), then at least make what you have look presentable.

Next, you JUST got to smell good. Typically, and in every culture men blow this to two extremes. They take a bottle of cologne and pour it on their head like Magic Johnson use to pour champagne after winning an NBA title. You have to be easy with all that stuff.

There is a guy I see often who loads up on it, and when you I see him and greet him, you know shake hands, for the rest of the date I smell that crap. Don't over do it. Don't spray yourself down with Axe deodorant. It won't get you any extra girls than you had before (that's all marketing). However what you must do is shower up with good soap, clean behind the ears, under arms (hard scrubs if you have an uneasy scent), and shampoo the hair.

What? Are you too hardcore for all this cleaning up? Fine, simply clean up, but who knows you may get lucky and when the cloths go off, she goes off into the night too, because you stunk ya hardcore goof. Wash up!

You've groomed yourself, got cleaned up - next up get into some comfortable nice looking casual cloths. Don't over do this either. You don't want to show up in a 3 piece and she's wearing in a blouse and jeans. On the same shoe, you don't want to show up in a Cowboys Jersey and shorts, and she's wearing a dazzling dress. A good casual blazer you probably can never go wrong.

This does depend on where you are meeting or going on the date. But keep it simple fellas, seriously.

Now you're on your way to meet her. Greet her with a side-by-side hug. This a hug where you simply put your arm on her back and your shoulders touch, right shoulder to her left shoulder. Do that or you do the "Jay Leno." That's where you hold hands (facing each other), look her in the eyes with a slight smile, and kiss her on the cheek. Leno does this every show when he welcomes a female guest on the show.

Now if that greeting stuff is not your style, just play off of how she greets you, if she comes in for a full hug, give her a full hug and tease her about it. If she doesn't get up to give you a greeting (because you are late), tease her about it. Don't get all into what she didn't or did do.

Now the meet of the date is rather simple, bring up topics that you want, ask questions, even questions you think are too "cookie-cutter." We have to remember you are dating to learn about each other so ask away. One of my favorite questions is how often do you wear underwear before you through them out?

It's off the wall, it's funny, and it gives me an idea of their hygiene. When dinner is over; don't freeze up like most guys and pay for dinner. Only do it if you want to. You have to remember she's a big girl and can handle these things. Her having dinner with you is just as important as you having dinner with her.

Now if you opened your big mouth and said, "CAN I take you out." Then you probably have to pay. If you said, "I'm going to the Bistro, want to join me.?" And she says yes, then that is a meeting/date. You're not obligated to pay for her dinner.

You just got part one first date tips.